Online & Phone & School Bullying

                                                 Bullying 

Online & phone & face to face school neighbor  bullying has been happening for many years , it is mostly due to many adolescent children who do not feel loved , accepted , payed attention to , listened to where no one in their family spends any time with them  by any number of their siblings , parents , other family members with their family both on the mother , father side , it can also stem from being teased , not respected by many  classmates.

This can also happen when the child is in transition due to child having to be in situations such as changing schools due to parents having to relocate while in the military or relocation due to divorce, custody issues between their mothers, fathers , their are many other emotional physiological emotional traumatic things can also be the cause of the child being the bully.

This can also stem as far as when the child reaches ( High School ) &  ( Collage ) age range 
and it can go as far as the child bullying their cousins , bother's  &  sisters , going in the base of emotional , physiological denial , use the basic denial as a cover as if they are innocent still even though  they did a negative act / action both verbal , physical or just one of the two to start .

It can begin with simple name calling,  in what they use to tear down the other child's confidence, self assurance happiness, the feeling of acceptance by , from others .

The verbal wording that is done both on line chat sites , social media sites like ( FaceBook ) &
 ( Twitter ) - And many others besides face to face , on the phone , texting , emailing.

Also it starts with degrading , demeaning verbal,  harmful wording , physical harm & other actions, if it is done enough it has stemmed as far as where the   child being bullied goes through physiological emotional denial  with in themselves along with hate , disgust with in , about themselves even comment to themselves about themselves starting of how they look in what does tie in with how they feel with in themselves , they do try to hide, disguise it with a slight if not full gesture of a smile , at times its not a simple gesture but at the same point either way it is not how the child that is or has been bullied by classmates or neighbor or sibling.


If the child that is being bullied  is not responsive , as communicative as they used to be , as active as they used to be & what may seem as where the child is oddly defensive when you or any other adult starts a conversation with the child even as if it is a simple innocent question .

That , many others are signs of the child is going through emotional ,physiological  pain , denial , anguish , other  negative emotional feelings.

Over time this has , still can lead to where the child takes their own life as they do harm to themselves where it can lead to death.
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No Parent wants that to happen to their child / children at all.

It is said with that no parent should out live , have to bairy their own child.
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It is more then imperative that you as a caring parent focus on those , many other signs , if at all you are not totally sure what to do , what to look for in any number of signs with in , from your child or children please consult a therapist or psychologist to start.

And it will be logical to have your child or children or your entire family to attend sessions with a therapist or psychologist -but first have the sessions start with.

If you address it to the parents of  child that is doing the bullying you will see mostly basic denial , defensiveness  , emotional , verbal hate from the parents of the bully  , with that it will be the same if the school , Police approach the parents.

That is more then a common thing that happens , the reason is that many parents feel , view that their child could not really do any harm of any sort , thus mostly comes from the mother of the bully more then it would come from both the mother , father.

It is also an emotional shock to the bully's parents when they are being addressed by anyone about the issue / situation concerning their child or children.

It does normally would have to view it for themselves of their child doing the very thing that of what is being said that their own child is doing to another child -The simple , actual reason for that is simply that it is not easy , comfortable for a parent to address their own child if they did what is or has been said that the child is or was doing to another child , with that it is common that the child will simply deny it with no question.

But if the child is being accused of some thing that in reality the child is , has not done what is 
the child is being accused of , do note that the one that is actually doing the bullying does normally try to accuse another child of doing the bullying , with that trys to act as if they are the innocent one.

And the parents of the bully do take offense when the school suspends their child with the added accusation of their child being accused of bullying another child -this is also a common thing unless they see it for themselves.

It is not a logical action but it is common of those to happen of what the parents of the bully f the needing to view it for themselves - Being told of such things is not easy to take in what is understandable , as it was said earlier it is still  true on this part that the parent or parents do not view their own child doing anything wrong no matter what it is on or about, even with that it i understandable but they need to address it , take proper positive actions like have the child do  sessions with a therapist, with that the parents need to make time to spend with the child , go on outing with the child with that , many other positive things like activities like model building , going out to eat , movies , bike ridding , camping , more are one of many ways to show that the child will not be ignored or even feel that they are being ignored , that they are equally loved , cared for , about as their sisters , cousins are to start.

Do note: For both the child that is doing the bullying , the one that is being bullied there  will come a point that the family of the one that is being bullied to attend a session or more with the child being bullied , the same is true of the family members of the one that is doing the bullying .

If your child is being harassed via online or on the phone, physically harmed  in any way , at school or anywhere outside of the house , school , if the child does not address it to a police officer if they are at high school or collage age then it is the duty& responsibility of the parent or parents to contact the local authorities like the police , etc.- With no hesitation no matter what ..

But if the child is in the (  Elementary school ) & High School & Junior  High Age it is the duty, responsibility of the parents to contact the local authorities  with no hesitation no matter what .